Help im new

So you found it out he, that’s prob quite a shock. It certainly was a shock to many in our system! Or maybe you’ve know for a long time but now it got confirmed and you got a diagnosis or you read the 5 criteria in the DSM-5 and realised you met all of them. First off all pay attention to your breathing. When your breath correctly, more airflow gets into your blood and hence into your brain and hence you will be able to think more clearly. 4 seconds in, hold for 5 breath out slowly 6 or 7 seconds. Repeat 3 times.

If you are in immediate danger please call 911 or a crisis line: USA:
Other countries:
If you need to report child abuse in USA please call
1-800-4ACHILD. They have state or local #s of 24/7 hotlines.

But maybe before you do, i should asure you, that you are okay. DID is not like the movies, not at all. You have had this disorder since early childhood. Nothing changed besides the fact that you became aware of it or that you got a diagnosis for it.

Sure becoming aware can be a huge shock and its okay to feel the emotions you feel.
But i hope you know that all your system mates / head mates / alters/ parts / personalities
or whatever terms you use for you, came to help and protect you. Your innocent child brain found a way to cope. Now as an adult you will learn to cope. And so will the other alters. Becoming aware means progress! We highly suggest to start journaling and writing letters to each other. Personally we bullet journal.

Please know the alters are not the reason you have DID
They are not the cause of your DID
They did not give you or make you DID.
It was a child’s brain coping with repeated childhood trauma.
And it was not your fault or the fault of anyone else in your system.

We have a video for if you are a new alter
And a video for if you found a new alter

Maybe you got diagnosed with DID but you don’t believe it.
Maybe you don’t want to  believe it or can’t believe it.
Maybe you deal with a lot of doubt please know many people with DID experience this.
You are certainly not the only one. And doubting your DID only validates it more that you did not just make it up. Because then you would have known and not doubt it.
Maybe all you can think right now is this makes NO sense.
And right now it doesn’t. Because that is the whole purpose of DID.
To protect the innocent, to protect the brain and mind. To protect you and your body.
And if you are only finding out now, they did a pretty great job!

Try to write a letter or a note, explain whom you are, how old you are and what year it is. Explain you are an adult now. That you are safe(r) now (if that is true) introduce yourself and invite the others  to introduce themselves as well. You might find some of them already know each other, while others don’t.

Please reach out to a DID community where you can share and learn more about DID and where you can find people like you, who went through or are going through the same thing you are going through right now. You are not alone.
dissociative identity disorder is NOT rare. 1-3% of the world population has it.
Some say 1 in 100 people have a dissociative disorder. And 1 in 5 has a mental disorder.
We hope you can find support & comfort on this website, our youtube and other social media like our @did_system twitter.
We also highly recommend the fb support group AlterNation 
We hope you find support, hope and strength reading about others with DID.
And that it will inspire you all to work together as a collective system to live the best life possible, because you all, so deserve it!!

11 thoughts on “Help im new”

  1. Hey! This is my first comment here so I just wanted to give a quick shout out and say I really enjoy reading your blog posts. Can you recommend any other blogs/websites/forums that cover the same subjects? Many thanks!


  2. I would like to express my love for your kindness for individuals who really need help with your matter. Your very own dedication to getting the solution all-around appears to be wonderfully useful and have in most cases enabled somebody like me to realize their aims. Your amazing valuable hints and tips entails a lot to me and much more to my mates. With thanks; from each one of us.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.